The Smell of Laziness

Jo Malone is back doing what she loves best. Picture: Contributed

I was listening to the marvellous Jo Malone, the celebrated perfumer, on Radio 4 on Saturday morning, and the conversation turned to smells that other people found objectionable. A listener suggested that the smell of washed clothes that had taken too long to dry was a smell that she found deeply repulsive, whilst her husband claimed not to be able to smell the aroma at all. I have to say that that particular smell always reminds me of baby sick, although I’m not sure why, and it’s besides the point really.

In response to the listener’s comment Jo Malone spoke forth, saying “I can’t stand that smell either, that’s laziness; that’s the smell of laziness.” Which seemed a little harsh frankly.

As someone who has been known to occasionally forget that the washing machine I had set to run before I left the house in the morning is sitting there in the evening with a full load of damp clothes festering away, I would contest Jo’s assertion. I would suggest that it’s a forgetfulness rather than laziness. After all I end up washing the clothes again on the rare occasion that it happens, thus creating more work.

But we all have our funny little ways of judging the actions, or the in-action, of others and we make rules up about what it means to us. I’m not a big fan of people being late for meetings, especially group meetings where everyone else is kept waiting, but I know that for some people that it absolutely means a complete lack of respect for someone to be late.

I challenged a young lawyer in a work-shop once who suggested that her boyfriend being late to meet her meant that he didn’t respect her. I queried whether, leaving aside his tardiness, she felt that her boyfriend did actually respect her, and she replied that yes, she thought he did. So I asked her why she had made it a rule in her life that being late meant a lack of respect. It gave her pause to think about her rules and why she’d made them.

What rules do you have that mean more to you than perhaps they should and why have you chosen to have them?

Published by silverlobster

I am passionate about how we connect and communicate and I believe that is why we are here. We get so much of our inter-personal communication wrong and often this is just due to a lack of understanding; of ourselves; of others; of what is required to talk openly and honestly, with empathy, to one another. I am on a journey of discovery and the more I learn the more I realise I don't know. May the journey never end. My other passion is dance. Having danced much in my youth I had a period of wilderness years where I lost my way, and was absent from the dance floor. Now that I'm back , I intend to stay.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: